Healing for Neurodivergent Survivors of Domestic Violence
Rediscover Yourself After Trauma | Online Therapy in Oklahoma
When you’ve spent years surviving—navigating relationships that left you feeling small, doubting your instincts, and questioning your own experiences—it can be hard to recognize who you are outside of survival mode.
If you are autistic, ADHD, or suspect you are, you may have learned early on to suppress parts of yourself to fit in. You may have been told you were "too much" or "too sensitive," that you misread situations, or that your feelings were exaggerated. And when manipulation, gaslighting, or coercion entered your relationships, it became even harder to separate what was real from what you were made to believe.
Now, you’re left asking: Who am I when I am not adapting to survive?
Many neurodivergent survivors of abuse share common experiences, including:
Masking and People-Pleasing – You may have spent years adjusting your personality, needs, and boundaries to accommodate others, making it difficult to recognize your own desires and limits.
Struggling to Identify Red Flags – If you’ve been gaslit or conditioned to ignore your instincts, it can feel impossible to trust yourself.
Emotional Intensity and Nervous System Overload – The mix of trauma responses, rejection sensitivity, and sensory overwhelm can make it difficult to know when you're reacting to a current situation versus past wounds.
Attachment Wounds and Fear of Abandonment – If past relationships have reinforced a fear of being alone, it’s understandable that breaking free from toxic dynamics feels terrifying.
These experiences don’t define you—but they do shape how you move through the world. Together, we can untangle the past so it no longer controls your future.
Neurodivergency and Relational Violence
Counseling for Neurodivergency and Trauma - Rebuilding Trust in Yourself
You don’t have to stay lost in self-doubt. Therapy can help you:
Reconnect with your instincts – Learn to trust your gut feelings instead of dismissing them.
Make sense of your past without being trapped by it – Gain clarity on how both trauma and neurodivergence have shaped your experiences.
Create boundaries that feel safe and sustainable – Shift from survival mode to a life that reflects your values.
Explore who you are beyond what you’ve been through – Healing is not just about processing pain; it’s about rediscovering joy, connection, and self-compassion.
This is your chance to step into a life where you are no longer shrinking, over-explaining, or seeking validation from people who refuse to see you.
Neurodivergent affirming therapy
Embracing your neurodivergency can bring a mix of joy, relief, grief, and confusion. It can explain so much—why relationships have felt difficult, why certain experiences hit deeper, why the world has often seemed overwhelming—but it can also leave you questioning how much of your life has been shaped by survival rather than self-discovery.
In our work together, we can work on:
Making sense of your diagnosis and your past – Together, we can explore the overlap between neurodivergence and trauma, helping you understand what’s shaped your experiences.
Redefining self-compassion – You are not “too sensitive” or “too much.” Your needs are real, and learning to honor them is a crucial step toward healing.
Developing coping strategies tailored to your brain – We’ll explore practical tools that align with how you process emotions, handle relationships, and navigate daily life.
Separating self-blame from self-awareness – It’s time to let go of internalized guilt and see yourself through a kinder, more understanding lens.
